THIS IS MY FAVORITE POST
The powerful ending to Janelle Monae’s (and Erykah Badu’s) song “Q.U.E.E.N.” The acronym: Queer. Untouchables. Emigrants. Excommunicated. Negroid.
So today we had guest speaker Dana Beyer in my Women’s Studies class! Dana is a transgender woman who lobbies for trans* rights and also writes occasionally for the Huffington Post (often about trans* rights).
She was very intelligent, patient, and well-spoken. She discussed many things, including her identity as intersex and transgender. She pointed out that MTF trans* people are looked down on more than FTM trans* people are because in general people can readily understand why a woman would want to be a man, but find it hard to fathom that a man would want to give up his masculinity for femininity. This goes along with her discussion of a (ridiculous) radical feminism theory that posits that trans* people wouldn’t exist if sexism wasn’t present in society.
I was lucky enough to talk with her about terminology after class! I asked her opinion on changing the LGBTQIA acronym to GSM (gender and sexual minorities) and she agreed that it’s a good idea but that perhaps it should instead be SGM (due to the pronunciation of GSM). We talked about how the term cisgender has caught on only in recent years, so it’s all about spreading this term around so it gains traction.
So for my Women’s Studies class this week, we read this awesome article on the racial prejudice that fuels feminists’ and non-feminists critiques of Beyonce (i.e. that she promotes a hyper-sexualized image of herself, that she called her tour the “Mrs. Carter” tour, the obsession with the validity of her pregnancy, etc.). I highly encourage you to read the whole article, so here are some great quotes to motivate you to do so:
"The conversation surrounding Beyoncé feels like assessing a prize thoroughbred rather than observing a human woman, and it is dismaying when so-called feminist discourse contributes to that. Feminism is about challenging structural inequalities in society, but the criticism of Beyoncé as a feminist figure smacks of hating the player and ignoring the game, to twist an old phrase."
”Dr. Sarah Jackson, a race and media scholar at Boston’s Northeastern University, says, “The idea that Beyoncé being sexy is only her performing for male viewers assumes that embracing sexuality isn’t also for women.” Jackson adds that the criticism also ignores “the limited choices available to women in the entertainment industry and the limited ways Beyoncé is allowed to express her sexuality, because of her gender and her race.’Her confounding mainstream persona, Jackson points out, is one key to the entertainer’s success as a black artist. ‘You don’t see black versions of Lady Gaga crossing over to the extent that Beyoncé has or reaching her levels of success. Black artists rarely have the same privilege of not conforming to dominant image expectations.’”
“Through a career that has included crotch-grabbing, nudity, BDSM, Marilyn Monroe fetishizing, and a 1992 book devoted to sex, Madonna has been viewed as a feminist provocateur, pushing the boundaries of acceptable femininity. But Beyoncé’s use of her body is criticized as thoughtless and without value beyond male titillation, providing a modern example of the age-old racist juxtaposition of animalistic black sexuality vs. controlled, intentional, and civilized white sexuality.”
”If a woman loses feminist bona fides by becoming Mrs. So-and-So, someone best tell the 86 percent of American women who take their husbands’ names at marriage. If there is any woman not in danger of being subsumed by a man’s identity—no matter her last name—it is Beyoncé. In fact, the singer’s married name is not ‘Mrs. Carter.’ She and her husband combined their names to create the hyphenate ‘Knowles-Carter.’
‘This man, who has made a living—an extremely good one—perpetuating hyper-masculinity, patriarchal masculinity, took the last name of the woman he married,’ Jackson says. ‘That in itself, to me, says something about gender in their relationship and the respect that exists there.’”
Hangin out with the Obamas. (and @kpwhatsthesitch)
motivation behind misogyny:
- men maintaining power over women
results of misogyny:
- rape, abuse, murder, lower pay, less opportunities, general discrimination and loss of power, restrictive gender roles, and much, much more.
motivation behind misandry:
- men as a group sure do a lot of bad things as a result of their gendered power and male privilege, im not sure that i trust them or even like them.
results of misandry:
- hurt feelings
Hey how about all hatred based on a generalized group is pretty fucking stupid?
yo as someone who was repeatedly raped by someone i knew and trusted i can definitely jive with a general feeling of mistrust and anger towards men and the institutions of power that, for example, gave my rapist the mindset that he had that i was his for the taking and that me saying no didn’t matter because years of our culture had taught him that i was an object and no matter what i said it all meant yes
so if you wanna try to explain to me that that’s wrong i’m going to have a hard time understanding why
First off, I’m sorry. I didn’t know that. Really, that’s fucking awful, and if I could change that somehow, I would.
My point is that hating 3.5 billion men on the planet and blaming all men for what one person did doesn’t jive with me. I refuse to generalize like that. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t support rape culture, and I don’t support misogyny, but I don’t support generalizations of billions of people because of how some act, just like I don’t think all Muslims are terrorists because of 9/11 and other terrorist attacks.
Except guess what: that’s not the same, at all.
9/11 was done by religious extremists. Rape is committed by every day people, a lot of whom, like my attacker, don’t believe they’ve raped anybody.
There is no overwhelming, unescapable, omnipresent culture of religious radicalism that affects every single person anywhere anyone practices Islam. There overwhelming sentiment after 9/11 was not that “America was asking for it” or that the attackers “didn’t know what they were doing was wrong.” No one told the United States to “just get over it and stop being so sensitive.”
There are no data tables like this that say 50% of respondents think it’s okay for someone to attack a country if the country got the attackers excited:
It is not a bitter fucking fight to get people to understand that attacking a country is wrong.
There are not pages and pages of advertisements and hours and hours of videos reinforcing the cultural idea that countries need to be attractive enough to attack but virtuous enough for it not to happen, but there are
of that shit for women across CENTURIES of time that are STILL BEING PRINTED.
Furtherfuckingmore, when you tell me that it’s “fucking stupid” to instinctually distrust and hate men when intimate partner violence numbers look the way they do and when as many as one in three women on a college campus are the victims of attempted or completed rape and when rapes and druggings at fraternities are continually swept under the rug you are perpetuating rape culture whether you like it or not. Even before you knew I had been raped, your statement invalidated the feelings of people who have been oppressed. Who have been raped. Who have already been shamed for what happened to them, even if their attacker is almost certainly walking free. Calling what I was talking about “fucking stupid” is rape culture. It’s the same exact thing my boyfriend said to me when I said I didn’t want to. It’s the same thing my friends said to me when I told them I thought I’d been raped. It’s the same shit, okay? You saying that you wished I hadn’t been raped doesn’t change that the sort of things you’re saying make it easier for our society to act like my rape wasn’t a big deal. Like my rapist didn’t do anything wrong.
I hate men and our culture of ultra-masculinity and you’re not fucking helping me change my mind.
i changed my urls at the top so that it still made sense that i was speaking but i really am proud of this thing that i wrote and don’t even care that i lost a shitty friend over it